Focus on the best interest of the children
The two most emotional and expensive issues in divorce are children and property division. Fortunately, in most cases the custody issues are resolved in a sensible manner by keeping the best interest of the children as the focus point. Unfortunately, these issues can spiral into ugly protracted litigation by a hostile and or greedy spouse if not properly controlled from the beginning. The children can be used as the final weapon by an angry and vindictive spouse. The children can be seen as a source for more money. Even a well intending spouse that is extremely misguided in what is truly in the best interest of the children can take ridiculous positions and make outrageous demands.
To control and prevail in litigation over children issues in divorce you will need an experienced and skilled attorney that can organize and manage your parenting plan. In contentious cases, it may be necessary to build a strong team of professionals to support your position. Your attorney must have quality guardian ad litems, child psychologists, pediatricians, and investigators ready and able to work together for a common goal. Your spouse can make numerous unfounded accusations. You have to be ready to counter and neutralize those accusations.
The litigation issues involved with children are not issues that you can blindly compromise during divorce, and then go back and fix later. Once the dyes are cast, it is very difficult to achieve a new direction. If possible, proper positioning should begin before the divorce is filed and, if not, immediately upon filing.